February 17, 2023
A seed was planted. On second thought, the seed was already there. The seed was nurtured and has finally begun to grow. I’m not talking about a physical seed. I’m talking about a mental seed.
Years ago, a seed was planted in me to work on my shadow self. My shadow self; being the parts of me that I am ashamed of. The parts of me that I deny. The parts of me I deem unacceptable. The “dark” parts of me.
We all have them. Parts of ourselves that we would rather forget exist. It is difficult to look those parts of you in the face and acknowledge them. Hard as it may be, it is essential. It is necessary to look at those not so pleasant parts of yourself and acknowledge they exist. Necessary at least, for those who are interested in personal growth and development.
If you have ever taken a psychology class, you are likely familiar with Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung (1875-1961). Jung is the founder of analytical psychology and the author of the personal development method of shadow work. If psychology isn’t your thing, think of this as a spiritual process. If spirituality isn’t your thing, think of it as a process that provides you with the benefit of becoming more self-aware and to help you heal from your past.
Shadow work isn’t easy. It forces you to acknowledge the parts of yourself you keep hidden. The goal here isn’t to get rid of your shadow. That is impossible to do. You will always have your shadow self. The goal is to integrate your shadow self and help cultivate self-acceptance by putting in the work.
All of that being said, I have been avoiding this work for three years now! I have always made excuses about why I didn’t need to put in the work. The thought would always just be a tiny blip on my radar and I would push the thought away as soon as possible.
It wasn’t until I saw the movie Stutz on Netflix, that I really got it. The way that Phil Stutz explained and actually showed an example of it with Jonah Hill clicked with me. The lightbulb went on and I finally got it! I finally felt like this was the tool I needed to finally start the inner work.
I watched the movie for a second time, a day after I saw it for the first time. Except this time, I took notes. I had a realization that there is not just one part of a shadow self, there are many. In fact, I came up with a total of 14 shadows. Fourteen different versions of my past self that need to be acknowledged so I can begin to heal from the past. I have no idea if this is a lot or not. It sure seems like a lot, but I have no one else to compare it to. I may find that as I continue the work, there are more. Or I may find that by healing one, I heal several at the same time.
For now, my work has just begun. I have a long road ahead of me. But for the first time, I can finally say that I am ready to take control and continue to nourish this seed that has been planted in me.
I had no idea that by taking the first steps into working with my shadow, I would get catapulted into another spiritual awakening…
Rebecca